4 ways to break a negative pattern

Patterns are repetitive and can please as well as irritate. In nature they look good, as ripples, or on leaves. In people, when negative patterns appear, they can frustrate both the person who has patterns and the people dealing with her. You could be rude, lazy, dirty- the list never ends, does it?

Breaking the pattern

Changing these negative patterns to positive ones is challenging. Trying to suppress negative patterns can backfire. By not being yourself, you might have an outburst one day. Instead, substituting negative thoughts with positive ones can help you break out of the cycle of repeating negative patterns.

First, you need to be aware that you’ve got a problem. You might fool yourself for a while by saying he is over sensitive etc, but if multiple people are raising the same issue, at home and work, you might want to think about what they’re saying.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s easy to go to the other extreme and switch to self pity mode. That’s not helpful to anyone.

Steps to establish a positive pattern

Here are some things I tried that worked for me- give them a spin.

1. Meditate.

Meditate first thing in the morning. Do a body scan. Even if you can concentrate for five minutes, that’s a great first step.

2. Think before speaking.

The other day while cleaning up my blog, I found this great sher I first heard from my dad-

“Tumhari shaan ghat jaati

Ki rutba kam ho gaya hota

Jo gusse se kaha tumne

Wahi has kar kaha hota.”

Rude

3. Keep your ego aside.

Try to talk in an even, soft, calm tone. Even if you’re feeling irritated, you won’t show your irritation then.

4. If you fall off the wagon, don’t berate yourself too much.

Get up, dust yourself off and start again. It’s not easy to get rid of a lifetime of bad habits.

Good luck!

 

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